“Here comes the dreamer” and the plot to kill Joseph (18-20)
A would-be rescuer (21-22)
Off with the coat (23-24)
Sell him. (25-28)
Reuben’s plan fails (29-30)
Operation Cover-up (31-33)
Unexpected damage (34-35)
Understanding anger and “triggers”
Beware of letting things go past the point of no return.
Covering up sin only causes deeper pain.
Find any triggers.
Deal with the deeper issues. Reject denial.
If you have covered something up, confess.
Is it hard for siblings to celebrate each other’s successes? What does this saying mean: “A prophet is not without honor except in his hometown and in his own household.” (Matthew 13:57)? Why should that be so? What implications does this have for family relationships?
Have you ever had a rescue plan that really could have worked, but then just didn’t go off as you had hoped? Please share it with the group. What do you think Rueben should have done? Should he have directly confronted his brothers’ intention to kill Joseph? Or was the subtle approach wiser? What would you have done in this circumstance?
Is there such a thing as a successful cover-up? What is the downside of covering up a painful family episode?
Do you think Joseph’s brothers thought about the collateral damage of their choices? Would they have done what they did if they could foresee the pain it would produce?
Have you had experience with a trigger that produces an angry response? Have you had something that produced or brought forth an angry response? Why do you suppose the coat of many colors and the dreams produced such a strong response? What should Joseph have done with these two issues in light of his brothers’ responses?
What was your family of origin like? Did you talk about issues or did you tend to silence them? What responsibility does Jacob bear for not addressing the issues of anger in his family? Why is it so hard to acknowledge the issues in our own families? What story did Jacob tell about this sad situation? Was his story/understanding accurate?
Have you ever witnessed a cover-up being confessed? What is the difference between confessing sin and having our sin exposed involuntarily? What form should confession take today? How should we confess to one another?